RAELENE TAN offers advice on dining etiquette in a Malay home, just in time for this month’s Hari Raya Puasa celebrations.

The Islamic festival of Hari Raya Puasa will be celebrated on Wednesday, 5 June. Coming at the end of the month-long fast of Ramadan, Hari Raya Puasa is a joyful occasion shared with family and friends, when traditional delicacies are enjoyed. Here in Singapore we have opportunities to eat festive fare in Malay restaurants or celebrate at the homes of Malay friends. This is a good time to brush up on our dining etiquette.

TABLE SETTING

At a Malay home, whether seated on colourful floor-mats or at a table, serving platters of food are placed in the centre, with serving spoons. In both instances, individual dinner plates are provided and, traditionally, cutlery is not used unless requested. Malays customarily eat with their fingers. Drinking glasses are placed at the top left of individual settings. It is usual for the host to invite guests to eat by saying, “Jemput” (help yourself) and, “Silikan” (start now). To be urged several times to begin eating shows politeness in not being greedy.

USING FINGERS

There will normally be a finger-bowl on the table for use before and after eating. Use the fingers of the right hand for eating purposes. With your fingertips, take a small amount of food and mound it smoothly, then, fingertips facing upwards, push the food quickly into the mouth using the thumb. Practice makes perfect!

SERVING FOOD

Dishes are passed around the table from right to left. The left hand is used for passing dishes when the right hand is sticky from eating. When serving oneself, the serving spoon must not touch other food on one’s individual plate. It is customary for each person to serve themselves. Rice is placed on the individual plate first. Then, other food is placed on the far (top) side of the plate. Serve yourself small portions initially, as it is considered respectful to have ‘seconds’.

SOUP

Soup is generally served in a central tureen. Consumed throughout a meal, soup is for moistening the rice and not only for drinking’s sake. Ladle a little soup over the rice on the individual plate. Solid ingredients in the soup are placed at the top of the dinner plate.

FINISHING

After a meal say, “Terima kasih” (thank you) to the host, who will reply with, “Sama-sama” (same to you). “Selamat Hari Raya!” (‘Peaceful celebration day’).

Excerpts from “Malay Etiquette-A Matter of Course” by Raelene Tan published by Landmark Books.

Who are they: A couple of different ANZA Book Clubs meet up around Singapore in the mornings and evenings to chat about all things literary. This month, we take a closer look at the long-running Tuesday morning group.
Where do they meet? “We meet on the third Tuesday of the month at 10am,” says clubber Tanya Burrows. “We tend to gather at each other’s homes. The host provides morning tea, scones, cakes and biscuits.”
What’s it all about? “It’s a lovely group and everyone’s shared love is reading. You only need to read one book a month, but we often discuss other books we’re reading as well. We choose our books over a year ahead, so people can plan their reading. We tend to read recently published books but add a few oldies as well.”
What does a typical meeting entail? “We sit around and chat and then one of us provides the author’s bio. Then each of us talks about the book we’ve just read and gives it a mark out of 10,” says Tanya. “The convenor takes notes and sends out a review afterwards. It’s always interesting when we have different points of view about the book in question!”
Guest authors: “We combined with another ANZA book group for an author visit with Rosie Milne. She wrote Olivia and Sophia (a novel based on the lives of Sir Stanford Raffles wives) and recent book Circumstance. She had interesting insights into writing and researching a book. We all enjoyed it thoroughly.”
Best thing about the group? “It’s a very relaxed, welcoming book group, with a reliable structure. We try to vary the books and that means we all read books we wouldn’t necessarily pick up ourselves. My favourites are the local Singapore novels, but we also read thrillers, classics and non-fiction. It’s a fantastic mix.”
How do I join? You need to be a current ANZA member, then head to the ANZA website and click on groups, book club. “We are always open to new members,” says Tanya. “There are day or evening choices available. We have only ladies in our group, but blokes are very welcome too.”
Hot tip: “It’s a really good idea to join the Singapore Library Service (nlb.gov.sg) – there are many branches, and tons of print books and ebooks available,” suggests Tanya. “Kinokuniya is also a great book shop if you like to own the books you read.”

ANZA currently has book clubs running on Tuesday mornings and Monday evenings. Find out more about Book Clubs at anza.org.sg/groups/book-club

Where is home? 
Home is the south coast of England, just outside Brighton. We’ve lived in Singapore for nearly 18 months. My husband Richard was offered a full-time job with Airbus Asia Training Centre, based in Seletar. We are here with our 13-year-old son, Tom.

How did you become the author of Blood & Bandages? 
Purely by chance. My parents-in-law live a few houses down from William Earl, the book’s star. They’ve been friends for years and as he got older, they started to look after him. William was at their house one Remembrance Sunday when I popped in. As the Veterans March Past began, William started reminiscing about his time in the RAMC during WW2.

Who is William Earl?
William is an independent and bright 103-year-old former dispensing chemist. He’s a sports fan and lifelong supporter of Arsenal football team. He’s engaging and gregarious and has a keen eye for a pretty face. He’ll never turn down an adventure and sees each day as a blessing.

What’s the book about? 
It focuses on the period 1939-1946 when William met his first wife Mary, was called up to serve in the RAMC as a nursing orderly, and his service in North Africa and Italy. His story is set in the context of the wider conflict and reveals the stories of his comrades, equally brave and selfless men who fought to save lives on the frontline at battles such as Enfidaville, Salerno and Anzio. It’s a unique and compelling story.

How long did this project take? 
We started in January 2009 and worked right up until the publisher’s deadline in September 2016. It was hard work and at times the only thing that kept me going was my promise to tell William’s story.

Did you worry about finishing the book in time, given William’s advanced years?
We started when he was 96, so it was always in the back of my mind. I needed to gather his evidence quickly and accurately so our interviews were recorded. I also felt that William’s testimony should be captured on film, so I have several hours of film footage. Once I had that, I knew I had enough material to work with should he pass away before the project was finished.

How much did you learn about WW2?
A huge amount. I was starting from scratch and to pull this off I had to acquire a general knowledge of WW2 in northern and southern Europe; a good knowledge of the Italian campaign, the operation of the RAMC and the 56th London Division and an expert knowledge of a Field Ambulance and the 214th in particular.

How did you research?
I started with general textbooks on WW2 and moved onto books about the Italian campaign. I tracked down rare books on the RAMC’s operation published in 1943-4, but most importantly I trawled through hundreds of original documents at the National Archives in Kew, London. Eventually, I knew more about William’s war than he did himself. The book includes extracts from his letters home, original photographs, training manuals, and official war diaries.

What relationship did you form with William? 
We formed a relationship based on honesty, love, respect and support, which still exists today. We like each other and the warmth of our relationship can be felt in the prose. He trusted me with memories that he had never shared and I trusted him to disclose the truth, warts and all. He gave up his privacy and I put my beloved screenwriting on hold to complete this project.

How excited was he to see the completed book? 
Very excited. For the first few minutes, he just kept turning it over saying; “This book. This is the book.” There were times when we thought it would never be finished.

What events did you do together? 
William and I are a double-act, so after it was launched in April 2017, we appeared on BBC TV news and Forces TV; we were interviewed on the radio; we gave book talks and attended local fairs. In 2018, we were invited to sign books at the Imperial War Museum in London and appear at the War and Peace Revival in Kent. This year, we will be returning to War and Peace and William will no doubt woo the audience again with his stories and passion. I am definitely an ‘also ran’ when William is around.

What’s your next writing project? 
To complete my full-length stage play called Shakespeare’s Sister. It’s set in 1920s England and is about a passionate kitchen maid who is determined to become an author despite her sex, family, class, and societal pressures.

Would you take on another biography?
Yes, if it was a unique story with good supporting evidence and I fell in love with it. You must love the story because it will take over your life for years.

Find out more about Liz at her website: lifeon-shorehambeach.blogspot.co.uk

How has having a guide dog changed your life?
I call Esme my yellow ‘Furrari’, emphasis on fur, because she accelerated my life and gave me independence, safety and confidence. Having Esme in my life also gave me the advocate bug – I just couldn’t stand the idea of other blind people needing guide dogs and facing the same negative experiences I did – like being unceremoniously manhandled out of establishments and battling taxi drivers. My simple hope is that 50-100 years down the road blind people needing guide dogs will have it a lot easier and there will be more understanding and tolerance in Asia about service dogs.

What have been some of the guide dog initiatives you’ve been involved with?
In the early days it was speaking with different stakeholders in the public and private sectors about guide dogs and requesting policy changes for guide dogs in establishments. The part I enjoy most now is curating Esme’s Facebook page (facebook.com/EsmeTheGlobalGuideDog), which has organically grown to over 11,000 followers over the years. On the page, I can show the regular person what a guide dog can do daily and how it changes my life as a blind person.

You have a new guide dog on the way?
Yes, her name is Elke! Elke was bred by Guide Dogs Victoria. She was puppy-raised by a volunteer family until she was a year old, before entering formal guide dog training at the school. Over the past months she has been trained to weave through crowds, avoid obstacles, and find landmarks like curbs, stairs and bus stops, to aid in a blind person’s mobility. I’m going over to Guide Dogs Victoria this month to be trained with Elke in Guide Dog Victoria’s onsite residential training. I’ll stay for about a month. During the training, we will get an opportunity to learn each other’s body language and to trust each other. Elke will fly back with me to Singapore on Qantas airlines. She’ll guide me at the airport and on and off the plane – guide dogs fly in the cabin with their handlers, to continue the work they do.

How long does it take to settle in with a new guide dog?
Whilst it only takes hours to fall in love with the sweetness of a Labrador, it takes a couple of weeks to establish a working relationship. It involves a lot of repetition, for example, going to our regular places like the office, church or mall. With more successful trips, Elke will learn to trust that I’ll provide the directions she requires to do her job well, and I’ll learn to put my life in Elke’s four paws to keep me safe. I think it will take several months for our bond to be cemented. Elke has big paws to fill as Esme my retired dog guide has been just simply life changing and amazing!

What’s next for Esme?
A good friend of mine will be adopting Esme, and she will transition into a lady of leisure! I’ll still get to visit her on weekends.

How have attitudes changed towards guide dogs in Singapore?
It has come a long way. When I first returned with Esme in 2011, it was almost impossible to go anywhere without a drama. Nowadays, I hear little children on the trains or in malls tell their parents; “that’s a guide dog, it’s helping that blind lady, and it’s allowed in here”. It helps a lot when members of the public speak up when seeing a guide dog team being refused access into a public place. Whether it’s a pair of wheels to replace legs, or four paws to replace eyes, it’s a way for disabled people to mitigate their impairment.

Cassandra is a counsellor, speaker, advocate and consultant. You can contact her at cassandrachiu.com

Regular ANZA volunteer Simon Tyndale-Biscoe comes into the ANZA office every Wednesday to work on Membership cards and New Members packs, bringing along his gorgeous Golden Retriever, Chutney. Chutney loves a snuggle, but he’s never far from Simon’s side! “Chutney provides love and affection to me, my wife, and our helper all the time,” says Simon. “He welcomes everyone who visits our home with a friendly bark, and he puts a smile on everyone’s face who meets him.” Chutney’s brother Pickles sadly passed away, but Chutney provides Simon with ongoing doggy love and support in Singapore. “He’s a valued family member, and a source of joy and happiness no matter what’s going on.”

Communications & Membership Manager, Mathilde Dujardin brings her Singapore rescue dog Frankie into the office on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Frankie can be found snoozing in sun patches, sneaking a second breakfast from Designer Christina Lim, and guarding the team from nefarious posties and unannounced visitors! “We rescued Frankie when she was five months old from local shelter Save Our Street Dogs (SOSD) and she has been the best addition to our family,” says Mathilde. “We’d been looking for a rescue pup for a while and she jumped out at us from the moment we met.” Frankie is a bundle of energy, who requires plenty of exercise. “She brings so much joy to our lives and forces us to get up for those early morning walks before work. We definitely get our 10,000+ steps in every day now!” Work days are one of the highlights of Frankie’s week and she laps up unlimited pats and attention. “She loves to come in to the ANZA office, where she is showered with love and cuddles by the whole team and has even convinced some to share their snacks and lunches with her!”

Website Manager Geoff King’s West Highland Terrier, Ellie, also pops into the ANZA office from time to time, brightening up the work day for staffers. She’s curious, a little shy and loves fruits; especially mango, rock melon and cherry tomatoes!

Benefits of Dogs in the workplace

Studies show bringing your pooch into the office makes for a more relaxed, productive, enjoyable workplace. Being around animals has many positive health benefits, including fewer visits to the doctor, lower cholesterol and improved heart health. A study in the International Journal of Workplace Health Management found that workers who brought their pets to work had decreased stress levels and more creativity.
Dogs are the ultimate ice-breaker and they increase socialisation between departments and colleagues, boosting opportunities for collaboration and teambuilding. A Dogs at Work policy is often viewed by employees as a valuable employment perk and can also lead to higher levels of job satisfaction. No wonder companies like Google and Amazon (and ANZA!) have adopted bring your pet to work policies.

23 June is Bring Your Dog to Work Day in Singapore! Don’t forget to bring a lead, pet food, toys, and lots of water.

It’s been said that every street has a story to tell in Berlin. The German capital was front and centre for so much defining history of the past century, ranging from unmitigated chaos to world-changing high drama. But rather than push history away and not delve into its darker elements, modern Berliners have embraced their past as part of the narrative of their complex and often conflicted city.

For all the wonderful bars and restaurants, vivid arts scene, and the beauty of its grand architecture and parklands, Berlin’s history is top of most visitor’s agenda. There are tours galore offering time travelling walks along the streets that so potently changed the course of history.

Tales abound, from the time of the Prussian kings, to the phenomenon of the Nazi era, and the carnage of war, when two-thirds of the city was destroyed. There are later chapters like when the Berlin Wall divided the city, and then after its fall, the decades of reunification that continue to the present day. Berlin never runs short of tales – here are six places where history jumps off the page.

The Reichstag is the historic seat of the German parliament and was built in 1894 but was burned in 1933 by the Nazis, as a pretext for the persecution of political opponents. Left as a ruin for decades, it was fully restored after the fall of the Berlin Wall and when Berlin became the capital once more, reopened in 1999. The glass dome that today sits on top of the Reichstag has become its main attraction, offering extraordinary views over the city. Advance online bookings are essential. visite.bundestag.de

The Brandenburg Gate is defining symbol of Berlin and the city’s most famous landmark,  commissioned by King Frederick Wilhelm II in 1788. The imposing sandstone monument consists of 12 giant columns and is 26 metres tall. Atop the gate is a chariot drawn by four horses, carrying Victoria, the goddess of victory. Located in the Mitte district’s Pariser Platz, the gate is a block away from the Reichstag. During the Cold War, its position as a blocked gate on the Berlin Wall made it a frequent site for demonstrations, and as the backdrop for powerful and iconic speeches by US Presidents John Kennedy and Ronald Reagan.

Memorial to the Murdered Jews is a couple of blocks from the Brandenberg Gate on Cora-Berliner-Strasse – a powerful memorial and underground museum, dedicated to the Jewish victims of the Nazi Holocaust. The memorial consists of 2,711 concrete slabs of varying heights, arranged in a grid that covers almost a city block. To gain the full effect of the structure, walk through the sea of slabs for the sense of disorientation and confusion. The memorial’s underground museum includes the story of how this devastating chapter in history unfolded. stiftung-denkmal.de/en/home.html

The UNESCO World Heritage listed Museum Island includes five institutions – Pergamon Museum, Bode-Museum, Neues Museum, Old National Gallery and Old Museum. The Pergamon is the most visited and home to three main galleries – the Middle East Museum, the Islamic Art Museum, and Antiquity collection. Taking the pride of place is the extraordinary Ishtar Gate of Babylon, which dates from 575BC and was reconstructed in 1930. Also on show is the Roman Market Gate of Miletus and the Mshatta Façade.
visitberlin.de/en/museum-island-in-berlin

In 1961, East Germany sealed off West Berlin with a 155km wall that surrounded the city, containing 293 observation towers and a lethal ‘Death Strip’. The wall finally came down in 1989 and the city – and country – was reunified. The Berlin Wall Memorial on Bernauer Strasse contains a 1.5km stretch of the barrier and a museum that charts the story of the years the city was divided. Across town at Friedrichstadt is the Checkpoint Charlie memorial, which was the best-known crossing point between East and West. berliner-mauer-gedenkstaette.de/en/

Only 30 years ago, where the famous square now stands, was a wasteland that had been destroyed during the war and then divided by the Berlin Wall. Today, Potsdamer Platz is a hive of business and retail activity, showing off a new style of contemporary architecture. The grand square is home to the Renzo Piano and Christoph Kohlbecker-designed Daimler Chrysler Quartier, the Beisheim Center, Sony Center and the Arkaden. Potsdamer Platz is a striking example of the way Berlin has reinvented itself since the wall came down.

For more on Berlin head to visitberlin.de

Next Stop, Berlin
Getting to Berlin is easier now than in previous years, due to the direct service from Singapore on Scoot Airlines. The low-cost carrier began flying between the two cities early last year, and the 10,000km journey into Berlin’s Tegel Airport takes just under 13 hours. One-way fares start from S$331 (check website for latest deals). Berlin is also the perfect stepping off point to the rest of Europe, as carriers like Ryanair and EasyJet fly from direct to London, Paris and Amsterdam.
flyscoot.com

Idlewild
80 Middle Road, Singapore 188966
idlewild.sg

Order up!
Tucked in behind the main lobby at the Intercontinental Hotel, Idlewild is a cosy, cool den with plush seating, low lighting and an air of old school luxury and romance. Behind the bar is New Zealand chef, turned cocktail master, Andy Griffiths, imported from Melbourne to take up the role of Head of Operations and Creative. In a smooth cravat and sharp suit, Andy embodies air travel’s resplendent years, guiding guests on a journey through cocktails that immortalise popular transatlantic destinations. Andy starts our trip in Paris with The French Cook ($26) an elegant gin-based citrus cocktail, served in a cut crystal glass, topped with a soft wormwood absinthe jube. Fresh and tart, with a hint of fizz, it’s my pick of the night. Our next drink is the savoury, salty Touria from Casablanca ($24), which blends red bell pepper juice, cumin laced honey and dry gin. It’s served on the rocks, with a square of paprika dusted honeycomb. Next stop is Dublin’s Dagda’s Harp ($24) a whisky-based sweet treat with creme de cacao, lemon and teapot bitters, served with a piece of lacy white chocolate. We finish back in Morocco with the Bebere Smash ($22) a tall, icy bourbon and mint cocktail with a good whack of salt – thanks to the preserved lemons. All the cocktails here are interesting, bold and creative, and Andy is a wealth of knowledge.

What’s to Eat:
A generous tapas menu goes around the globe, with bite-sized sharing snacks highlighting flavours from Peru to Cuba and Italy to Portugal. We start with London’s Classic Fish and Chips ($18) a plate of battered cod and wedges, with sides of malt vinegar, sea salt and lemon. It’s super crunchy and delicious. Next is mini Cubano Sandwiches ($18) from Havana; chunky and filling Avocado Fries ($15), coated in almonds and served with lemon mayo; and Le Mexique Choux ($15) chocolate profiteroles, filled with smooth dark chocolate cream. Bar staff are happy to pair menu items to cocktails!

Don’t miss:
A trip to the ‘Cabinet of Curiosities’ where you can order a 20ml pour from a selection of kooky, rare spirits from around the world. The bar also serves up live music, with a rotating guest lead singer and a local jazz band.

Fast fact:
Idlewild was New York’s John F. Kennedy International Airport before it was renamed in 1963 to honour the 35th US President.

How did you find out about SOSD?
I’ve always been extremely passionate about animals and was involved in rescue efforts back home in India. When I moved to Singapore four years ago, our apartment didn’t allow us to keep pets. Having had dogs all my life, it felt very weird to not have one. That’s when I decided to find a shelter where I could be around dogs and most importantly be able to help them. I started looking online and SOSD popped up. I dropped by one of their adoption drives to meet the volunteers and of course the dogs!

Describe your role at SOSD?
As a re-homer, my role is to make sure I find the right family for our dogs. We hold adoption drives every month, hoping our dogs are seen by people and find loving homes. The first stage after the drive is to get in touch with the potential adopter or fosterer to check if they’re still keen on helping the dog they have signed up for. During this phone call we give them a bit of background about the dog and reiterate our stringent adoption process. Some adopters have told us our long process is frustrating, so it’s necessary to explain why these measures are in place. Our process ensures dogs find the right home and generally do not come back to us.

What is the process of adopting a street dog?
We set up a house visit to meet the family and get a sense of the house. Meeting the family face-to-face makes it easier for us to gauge whether the dog is the right fit for them. I take time to understand the family, give them tips on what to do, what not to do, and what to expect. We then set up interaction with the dog. This could be at the shelter or at their home. I see how the family interacts with the dog and make suggestions on how to better handle them. The dog then has a one-week home trial, where I’m constantly in touch with the adopter, checking on their progress. If there are any concerns or issues, it’s my job to guide them through and if need be to visit their home to understand the problem and find a solution for it. At the end of the trial period, once the adopters are ready, I drop by to help them sign the papers.

What changes do you see in people that adopt?
Adopters often tell me the dog has made their children more responsible and independent, or their dog has been a source of emotional support. This is what matters to us at the end of the day; our dogs in loving homes and making a difference.

Favourite re-homing story?
A case from 2018 is very special to me; a couple took in one of our dogs who had severe separation anxiety and feared humans. They worked on him tirelessly, hired a trainer, and even looked at videos on YouTube! I use this case as an example now when I work on other adoption cases, showing that patience and commitment can help change an animal.

Why do you love what you do?
Being a voice for these animals, seeing them thrive and being loved in a home is what matters to me. Seeing a family happy and most of all the dog happy, is the reason I do what I do. Singapore Specials are the same as any other dog breed. They are equally loyal and loving and deserve the same amount of respect and love from us humans.

Save a dog!
Interested in sponsoring, fostering or adopting a street dog? Check out
sosd.org.sg to find out more. Volunteering opportunities are also available.